Disappointment.

We knew we were waiting for a correction on the death certificate of the kid’s father.  His Ghanaian name was used instead of his Christian name.  I understand why they need this corrected.  All the other documents have his Christian name on them, how would they know this is the same man that is discussed in the Social Welfare Report?  Either we need to prove he is actually dead, or he needs to consent to the adoption.  Since he is dead, it needs to be corrected.  That was over two weeks ago that we got that news.  No death certificate.  Not anyone’s fault, just disappointing.  

Today I found out that the embassy needs that corrected death certificate to even look at one piece of our paper.  So, for all I know, there could be 8 more of these type of errors that they just haven’t had the time to discover yet.  How long will this go on?  No one will tell me.  Disappointing.
There are people that bribe and steal their documents.  Their children might well be home before mine.  While I make sure that all my i’s are dotted and t’s are crossed, other people push and bully their children’s birthparents and government officials into getting their way.  Disappointing at best.
–FullPlateMom,
who feels a little sick today when she wonders if any of this is worth it.    

4 Comments Add yours

  1. *HUG* It’s worth it.And, if my process is any indication, they have already looked at everything else, and once they get that last piece of paper it will be a quick turn-around. (I filed on Nov. 16….all paperwork was complete on Dec. 30 and approval on Dec. 31, so that tells me they were looking at everything in the meanwhile.)*HUG* again.

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  2. MommyBrec says:

    I am sorry you are feeling so discouraged. The only way to feel good again is to get your children home…or to talk to Heavenly Father. He is the only one who can lighten this sorrow, dissapointment and frustration you feel right now. Praying about it not only gives you a good listening ear, but also God can give you the encouragement you need to make it through another day without your kids.I am sorry this is all so frustrating. Remember that, like with Bubbly Girl’s adoption, “Nothing worthwhile is ever easy”. Praying for you, your family, your children in Ghana, and for that darn paper to somehow appear!Breclynmanygrandadventures.blogspot.comsixteensmallstones.blogspot.com

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  3. Hey there girlfriend. It’s worth it.It just sucks not knowing what they’re doing….or when they’ll be done. This is the absolute worst part. You have been so patient and so good to others. It’s your turn to have something good happen to you. I believe in the saying “what goes around comes around”. It’ll happen. Hang in there Sista! Maybe a good round of darts or a kick boxing class would make you feel better. 🙂 Pink robe, diet coke…dark closet. That too. I’m thinkin’ ’boutcha!

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  4. While I did momentarily consider bribing, stealing and bullying (ask Lois =0}) to get Efia home, it wouldn’t have done any good. Throwing an enormous trans-atlantic email hissy fit felt good for a split second, though. Then I just felt like an arse. Fortunately there was only one witness and she is gracious enough to forgive.Unfortunately the people in the Big Gray Building will probably come up with more minute details to pester you about before they realize that you aren’t going to go away quietly. Then you will suddenly receive your approval! It is a good thing that the process is so carefully reviewed but it is SO frustrating to be sitting on this side of the ocean waiting for that last “t” to be crossed!

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