I REALLY enjoy this blog. Dorothy and her husband have adopted many special needs children from here in the U.S. She often discusses the trials of parenting through issues with Fetal Alcohol Exposure, learning disabilities and sensory issues. She recently discussed support for AFTER you adopt. It’s easy for everyone to reach out and support you while you’re adopting, but after, well, out of sight, out of mind. Families often drop out of view while they struggle with adjustment to becoming a family. The post-adoption period is often when the kind words and emails are needed the most. I think there will come a time when there is a formal parent-organized group dedicated to supporting those of us who have adopted older or special needs kiddos. Anyone out there want to start one? Hint. Hint.
The Abba Fund Blog also discusses why more formal support is necessary. While I feel VERY supported in my little online community, there are some people who don’t have that and really need it. I think of the mom in Tennessee who sent her son back to Russia. If she had phone calls, emails or letters from parents of older adopted children, would she have felt capable of handling her son? Would she have been more aware of the resources that are out there? Maybe.
For now, let’s reach out to each other. Do you know someone who adopted older or special needs kiddos? Reach out and tell them how great they’re doing. Let’s be a shoulder for each other today. And, if you are reading this and you are out there, alone, please comment or shoot me an email. We’re here for you, not to judge, just to support.
who feels glad for her soft place to fall.