An update on the FORMER kids of Luckyhill: Sorry, there is no update. Almost all are back with their families now. I won’t update on Abe and Aninda until I have something FOR SURE to share. I do, however, hear that they are alright. I continue to encourage Kingsley, as always, to choose the right. Which leads me to my next issue…
I travel to Ghana with at least one or two members every time I go. Fun. Some of my BFFs are members of the LDS Church. Bonded through our experiences in Ghana. A lot of people assume that FPD and I are members. We have Family Home Evening (only it alternates Tuesday/Friday nights because of my work schedule. Hey, we’re non-members, we make it up as we go), all the Ghanaian (and the older American) children wear CTR rings. It would be any easy assumption to make. For me, it’s a non-issue. I would “let” my children explore membership at any church they feel fits their beliefs. They’re my children, no matter what. Shocking, but if one of my children was led to Hasidic Judaism, I wouldn’t disown them. I would merely explore it with them in an attempt to understand why. This country was founded on freedom of religion. I take that right very seriously, as long as you’re not preaching hate, I’m ok with what you believe.
So, in an attempt to understand the beliefs of my travel mates, I read the Book of Mormon. Then, I didn’t get it. So, I read the Mormonism for Dummies. After all, I had NO clue who Joseph Smith was, so the Book of Mormon wasn’t meaning much to me. I know now. And, I’m glad I know now. I’m glad I know about “giving talks in church” and “Relief Society”, because I have a daughter who is keenly aware of ALL of it. She is 8 years old, so she asks me every day when she should be baptized. Oops, in our church it’s not until you’re a teenager. Our church has no Relief Society. We have missionaries, but it’s usually something you do when you have a family and you’re already done with college. She constantly talks about going on a “mission”. We don’t have a Liahona, so she reads the one that she picked up at the Temple in Accra when we stayed there (it has seen better days). She sings “I am a Child of God” and knows all the songs from the songbook that we saw at the Distribution Center but I didn’t buy for her (which I kick myself for every single time she asks me to take her to the “Distribution Center to get it”, uhhh…I have NO clue where the nearest Distribution Center is). One of the other nurses I work with went to BYU, I quietly asked her is she is a “member”. She laughed and reminded me that it’s not the Stonecutter’s, we don’t have to whisper. I laughed too. I went home and told my daughter, she nearly peed herself with excitement. She had no idea that there were “members” here too. Incidentally, I asked her where she thought all the “white members” were coming from if they weren’t coming from the U.S.? She laughed and shrugged. We giggled together at the thought that church membership would be limited to Ghana.
Herein lies my dilemma, and please don’t send the missionaries (I’m kind of frightened of the idea), I told her I would take her to the LDS Church where we live (we actually have TWO wards). I LOVE that she loves what is familiar and feels like home. I can only imagine how much those songs and the worship feel like “home” to her. But, she says she doesn’t want to go. She wants to go to “our family church”, which is one I have been worshipping at since ResponsiBoy came home. I love that church. It feels like home to me. But, I witnessed a miracle in Ghana as well, and have NEVER felt closer to God then I did when we were staying at the Temple. I told that to Giggles, who told me she just wanted to “be in the family church”. Does she want to go because she feels “at home” at our church? Or, does she want to go because she wants to fit in with what she thinks defines us a family?
Do I just keep taking her to our church and see how she feels, or do I continue to encourage her to do what is obviously in her heart? It’s sad that I missed so much with my daughter. If this were ResponsiBoy, I would know exactly what his heart was telling him. I don’t know Giggles’ heart yet, we’re just scratching the surface. I don’t want to push her. But, I do want her to know that we encourage her to worship how she chooses. What do you think? Thanks!
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