I just read a post on the New York Times adoption blog that really spoke to me. I’m linking it below.
This article is another must read for parents of older adoptees who lived in loving foster families or adoptive parents of children who still have living birth parents. Somedays I wonder if I did the right thing by adopting three older children who had birth parents who loved them. Bubbly has a dad who loves her dearly. Giggles and ShyGuy have a mom who adores them. They lived a nice life in Ghana compared to many. They weren’t orphans who begged in the street. They were receiving a terrible education though (Giggles was supposed to be entering 4th grade when she got here and read like she was in KG) and they were extremely malnourished (we just visited the dentist, it wasn’t pretty). For uneducated, poor children (especially girls), Ghana is a cruel place. Children, and adults, in their situation tend to end up abused, just like the children (and some of the birth parents) at Luckyhill. In a country filled with desperation, people tend to prey on the poor and weak.
Just like my children who were adopted here in America, my Ghanaian children’s birth parents made a choice for them. They have a right to make that choice. They know that this choice gave them a chance at an education and a future they could have only dreamed of.