163 million does NOT mean that there are 163 million children who need to be adopted. That number is much less. Christian Alliance for Orphans gives a wonderful break down of the numbers HERE. They also suggest the possible limitations of trying to count orphans. Let’s face it, 163 million is a guess.
No one can possibly count the number of children who live in neglect, abuse or other appalling situations. Children in the U.S., in your city, live in homes with parents who simply just don’t feel like parenting. Are those children orphans? Technically, no. Do they need you? Yes. Part of taking care of the 163 million involves not only adopting, but supporting programs that give families coping skills, that teach parents how to be the mother or father their kids deserve, then, when all else fails, programs that support adoption.
It’s odd to hear this from an adoptive mother, someone who is so thankful for the seven children she has been gifted, but I’m going to say it anyway. Adoption should be a last resort. Adoption should be the choice of a birth parent who knows they could parent, that they have the support to do it, but that they choose to give their child a life outside of their home.
FPD and I are going to move forward to try to adopt from China. This will be the first time that we will have no clue about the whereabouts or origin of our child’s birth parents. This hurts my mama heart. It used to be that girls were placed for adoption in China simply because they were girls. This isn’t the case anymore. Now lack of medical care drives a lot of birth parents to make adoption plans. Adoption is shrouded in shame in China, so bio parents abandon their baby in a place where they know they’ll be found, and then they wait for the government or not-for-profit to provide their life-saving surgery. They live the rest of their lives not knowing what happened to their son or daughter. Did they live or die? I can’t even imagine.
I dream of the day when that isn’t necessary. Programs like The Unity Fund will get us there faster. Consider supporting the 163 million by making sure we’re doing everything we can to make that number ZERO.
who just taught her children what “wo ai ni” means.