Adoption, FPD

I Refuse to Make Any Apologies

All photos on this blog are courtesy of a Nikon D3100 camera that has been provided for the FullPlateFamily in exchange for photo credits and user reviews of accessories.  I have always used a Nikon camera, but never properly.  Thanks to some really great upgrades and proper instruction, my pictures are so much more crisp and I can capture my baby’s faces so much better, before they are no longer babies.  

Mighty has been doing so well.  It’s amazing really.  At home, he’s a very happy little man.  Our days are spent playing, learning and laughing.  A lot.  Mighty LOVES to laugh.  

While Dolly does this…

Mighty and I get some one on one time.  We review everyone’s names because, man, there are a lot of us around here.  He loves that.  He misses his brothers and sisters SO much while they’re at school.

We play with his little people bus and he sings to me.  He does a mean Old McDonald and Frere Jacques, all in Chinese.  

He’s not so sure about all these pictures I keep taking.  I tell him ‘I love You’ in Chinese and he shakes his head no.  He refuses to believe it.

We call Baba (FullPlateDad) and he tells Mighty the same thing.  Mighty is happy to hear FPD’s voice reassure him that he’ll be home soon.  FPD is still, by far, his favorite parent.  I’m okay with that.

Mighty is very unsure still.  He’s only been home a little over a week.  I’m going to disclose something here that might help everyone understand why Mighty may take a long time to learn to believe it when we tell him we love him.  

We aren’t Mighty’s first adoptive family.  

Mighty has been through more loss then I can fathom.  He’s been let down time and time again by people who have probably told him they love him.  

This is why he doesn’t believe me when I tell him ‘Wo ai ni.’

When we took Mighty to family Thanksgiving, he met my family and he screamed, in abject horror, when some of them greeted him.  He did it to FPD’s mom too.  He does it to the lady at the grocery store who tries to tell him how cute he is.  He does it to the teachers at school.  It’s not personal.  

And, I refuse to apologize for it.  

I’ll explain it.  I’ll tell you what Mighty has lived through, but the fact that he looks to FPD and I for comfort in these situations is HUGE.  

In fact, it’s downright amazing.  

I’m not even going to try to get Mighty to accept strangers, or to like them.  It’s more important to me that he gets to know FPD and I, and to a lesser extent his brothers and sisters, as his caregivers.  After I’m sure that bond is secure, then I’ll attempt to get him to stop shrieking at your mere presence.  

I will apologize if anyone’s feelings are hurt in the interim.  

who didn’t dress her son in a Superman hoodie by accident.
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