Here’s our tiny owl on Halloween. She has now been home 36 days. She and I have been together for 50. I think she is one of the 10 most precious people on this planet. I don’t know what it’s like to have biological kids, because I’ve never done that, but I know exactly how this adoption thing goes, and I’m going to tell all the would-be and soon-to-be adoptive parents out there who might be reading this.
I didn’t love her right away.
And, she sure as heck didn’t love me right away. That’s natural.
Love is process. It’s not something that happens instantly between two strangers, because that would be unnatural.
So, when you don’t love your child the second they’re handed to you, don’t sweat it. You’ll want to nurture them. You’ll feel protective of them. You’ll want to care for them right away, but you might not love them. Again, don’t fret. Now though, I can honestly say, there is no way I could love this tiny owl any more. She has grown into our family and, along the way, right into my heart. We worry so much about the attachment and the bonding, and becoming a family, but the love…what about the love? I don’t pretend to have all the answers. But, I’ve done this ten times now, and if there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that it happens on its own.
The love…it comes.
It comes on its own, because, you can’t stop it.
–FullPlateMom, who wonders if there is anyone could help but love this girl?!? How did I get so lucky?!?