An Everyday Fight

This is my daughter, Gigi, for those of you who aren’t familiar.  She is Deaf and has sight in only her right eye.  The vision she does have in that eye appears to be central only.  She misses things in her peripheral visual fields.  She falls sometimes because of it.  She missed out on learning…

Adoption Ethics: Policing Our Own Community

Yesterday, I posted about the ethics surrounding adoption, what I have learned during my ten adoptions over the 15 years. Adoption has brought me a community that is tight knit. Adoption from China, specifically, has a community with a culture all of its own. We all share a common history for our kids, but we…

Adoption Ethics: 15 Years of Lessons

This post has been 15 years in the making. Next month marks the 15th anniversary of Joe and I completing our first home study to adopt. Along the way, we have learned a thing or two about adoption ethics. Yes, adoption has its own set of ethics that are sometimes ignored by would-be parents whose…

A Crazy Brave Book Sale for Tian Ci

On Tuesday night, Tess and I held a live book sale via Facebook with all proceeds going directly to our crazy brave Tian Ci.  Tess sat next to me the entire time, well past her usual bedtime, watching every video and requesting that I read her each comment posted.  She is SO committed to raising…

Crazy Brave: A Fundraiser for Tian Ci and Dew Drops.

Have you met this crazy brave little girl? If not, I’d love to introduce you.  This is Tess.  Her history is long, and amazing, you can read about it by clicking her name in the header of this blog post.  Here’s the very abbreviated version though.  Tess was born in China with a severe Congenital…

When Adoption is Not in the Future.

Hi Kids, It’s mom.  I’m writing a little letter to you because I want you to know I hear you, and I see you.  I’ve heard the murmurs lately.  I’ve seen you gathering.  I recognize the signs.  You’re quietly lobbying.  The smaller among you is leading the charge. Today, Gigi has been home 5 months,…

Waving the White Cane

Yesterday, I had the IEP meeting from hell.  I’m not one to lie to you all.  So, I’m going to lay it out there. It was horrible. We have a wonderful local school.  Seriously, I adore them.  Over the last eight years that I have been educating my children (Cam entered Kindergarten the year Obama…

On This Day of New Beginnings.

We are Christian, and to all the other Christians reading, we say, He is risen!  In our religion, it is a day of new beginnings, of a new, and different life, and a day of eternal hope.  For everyone of other faiths, or no particular faith, we celebrate the new beginning that a new week…

A Month of Hearts–Remembering Tess’s Heart Disease Diagnosis.

Today is the first day of the month of hearts!  It’s Valentine’s Day on February 14th, of course, but around these parts, we also celebrate February by telling the tale of our brave hearts (not just Tess and Gigi’s, but of the brave hearts of ALL our kids who love them), by talking a lot…

She Won’t Know You Love Her.

I am mom to some brave girls, some true warrior women.  These girls, oh my gosh.  They power through stuff that would have most people in the fetal position for the rest of their lives.  Gigi, her story, it blows me out of the water.  While the details of it are hers to share, it’s…

In My Other Life.

I will often tell people that “in my other life” I own a small business, am an Advanced Practice Nurse, or that I raise 11 kids.  These worlds all feel very separate sometimes.  Adoption advocacy bleeds into all of them.  It’s natural for people in all of those arenas to ask about my kids.  Their…

Junk the Jammies!

Many of you email, message and text asking for ways you can help us in this season.  We are SO abundantly blessed.  SO blessed.  I’m putting out a plea here though.  Please help us do the same for other families who are struggling to pay for their adoptions.  You can go HERE to find out…