How Did You Talk Him Into It?

When I was at the retreat this weekend there was, of course, a lot of talk of husbands and kids.  I have a large number of them.  Not husbands, thank God, just children.  I got asked, again, how I managed to talk Joe into adopting that large number of children.  I have been asked it…

A Weekend Getaway

I have been to California two other times in my life.  Once to attend the Rose Bowl (GO BADGERS!!!) and once to take my then five children to Disneyland.  This time, I did it a little differently.  I flew out to L.A. on Friday to attend what I hope will become an annual retreat with…

Down on the Farm.

Yesterday was one of those perfect midwest days.  We were invited to a farm a little more than an hour from our house to celebrate adoption with families from WACAP who live in our area.  WACAP (World Association for Children and Parents) is the agency that has done all our home studies for China.  They were…

Because Shouting Feels All Kinds of Wrong.

By now it is common knowledge that the landscape of adoption has changed completely, even within my lifetime.  People who are my age, in their mid-30s and closing in on their 40s (yikes), and who were adopted, usually don’t know a whole lot about their first families.  Now, thankfully, the tide is starting to turn….

Hannah’s Story.

As an adoption advocate, it is my job to shine a spotlight on kids who wait in institutions around the world.  It is my hope that by sharing a small part of their story, their family might see them and realize they’ve been missing someone in their life.  I take this job very seriously.  Over…

I Run 4 Tess, But I Run With Ally.

I have often spoken about how I adopted a daughter just like me.  Ally is tough as nails, but she won’t talk a whole lot.  She can’t accept a compliment and she hates being the center of attention.  Sometimes, we’re so alike that we have a hard time connecting.  We connect to the world around…

What Might Be.

I’m over at The Red Thread this morning blogging about what meeting Tess in China was like.  This was a hard post to write.  My sweet Tess absolutely HATED me when we first met, and I was absolutely petrified of what our lives might be like with her.  I won’t lie, there were a couple…

A Heart Full of ‘What Ifs.”

In May of 2014, in an attempt to search out the very best answers for Tess, I took her to Boston to see another surgeon who is counted as among the best of the best when it comes to kids and their broken hearts.  The team at Boston Children’s is amazing, and we were given…

Hate Has No Voice Here.

When I began this blog in 2008, it was simply meant to journal our Ghanaian adoption process.  We were about to embark on a huge adventure, adopting our fifth child.  Having five kids meant that it was difficult to keep up on baby books, to mark milestones, to capture the memories.  We went on to…

Tess and her Unicorn Babies.

Tess has a very important Cardiology appointment on Friday.  We didn’t make the last one because she started throwing up the morning of the appointment.  Not because of illness, but because she’s so scared.  I am sick about that.  We rescheduled the appointment and took a break.  She’s had a break from doctors visits, checkups,…

In The Thick of It.

Lately, I have been distracting myself from my own insignificant problems (you know, the ones that feel REALLY significant, but are really just first world problems) with some volunteer work and chatting with some amazing mamas who are in China right now getting their babies. When they describe their feelings, fears, worries, joy, it takes…

The Key to the Kids

We’re shaking off the incognito around here.  This wasn’t a decision we made lightly.  It was never our intention to turn them into advocates for adoption, but that is what they’ve become naturally.  They enjoy this role.  They love talking to people about their family, and they never turn down a chance to be interviewed….