Empowering for Adulthood

Our goal as parents is to raise children who become free and autonomous adults.  Free thinkers, able to regulate, capable of higher level thought processes and decision making.  We want happy kids who turn into happy adults.  When you have a kid from a hard place getting to that point feels as daunting as summiting…

Correction through Connection.

Before we start talking about correction, as in, of undesirable behaviors, I want to take a moment to wish this girl a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Double digits, baby!!! Juliana, you are the reason I’m here, in Texas, learning all I can formally learn, so that I can pass it on to others.  When you came…

Connecting with Gigi

TBRI has three main principles on which it operates. 1. Empower–attention to physical needs. 2. Connection–attention to attachment needs. 3. Correction–attention to behavioral needs. As a potential adoptive parent, we’re given all kinds of training on empowerment.  Our kids come to us malnourished, starved for attention.  We are told we need to feed them freely,…

You’re Only Human.

I have a whole post about TBRI training yesterday, specifically about connecting which is a key component to TBRI.  Connection.  I had to work HARD on that, hence the upcoming post. Before I hit publish on my connecting post though, and I will, first thing tomorrow morning, I just want to send a little message…

Building Your Bookshelf

In case you’ve missed the last few days of posts, I am in Texas doing some TBRI Practitioner Training.  If you follow me on Facebook you’ve been getting more pearls of wisdom then you probably ever wanted.  I am in love with this training.  There isn’t one thing that was taught today that doesn’t enter…

Where Do I Even Start?

I’m in Forth Worth, Texas.  Phew.  Leaving the crew is always a rocky proposition.  I never know how each individual kid is going to react.  I wasn’t sure at all how to explain my absence to Gigi.  Yesterday, I told her that when she woke up she would drive me to the airport and I…

Why TBRI? Hope, That’s Why.

In 2009 we adopted our first child from Ghana.  She was almost 3 years old at the time.  She is now almost 10 years old.  She has given me permission to talk a little bit about my experience being the first time mom of a child who lived through terrible trauma.  I will not be…

Stronger and Stronger: Ally’s Graduation

Dear Ally, As I type this, you’re at your 8th grade dance.  I can picture you, surrounded by girlfriends, giggling away.  I asked your dad if he thought you would dance with a boy.  Then, we both erupted in our own fit of giggles.  You’ve got no time for boys, and I adore that about…

The End and the Beginning.

It’s Thursday morning.  In our new world of never ending therapies and our constant quest for language, this is the morning where Joe takes Gigi to Hearing Clinic (I know, she doesn’t hear, it’s confusing, they work with her on processing language.  In her case, this means ASL).  This is the one hour I have…

Pressing Pause.

Chatting with a good friend today gave me a much needed reminder.  After all the craziness that is involved in bringing home your newly adopted child, sometimes there is a lull that leaves you with nothing to do but worry.  I’ve been in my bathrobe for many a day now, doing nothing but focusing on…

A Low Key Christmas.

Gigi has been home for all of 36 hours and it’s CHRISTMAS!  For any of you who have adopted a preschooler, this is like the perfect storm.  For anyone who has adopted a deaf/visually impaired preschooler, this is TERRIFYING.  Gigi is easily overstimulated.  She gets excited and overwhelmed pretty easily.  The idea of so much…

What Might Be.

I’m over at The Red Thread this morning blogging about what meeting Tess in China was like.  This was a hard post to write.  My sweet Tess absolutely HATED me when we first met, and I was absolutely petrified of what our lives might be like with her.  I won’t lie, there were a couple…