As A Mother

I’m white. It’s not a well kept secret.  My picture is on the right hand side of your screen right now. Seven of my eleven children are black. That’s not a secret either. I’ve never wanted it to be.  I wouldn’t change one single thing about who they are, or really, who I am. Because…

I Hear You On The Sidelines.

My kids really enjoy sports.  We swim, dance, run, play soccer, do gymnastics and are, in general, an active family.  I have always enjoyed watching the kids sporting events.  I love seeing them give it their all at whatever they do.  Even Bo joined the Dwarf Athletic Association of America this year at their games….

Hate Has No Voice Here.

When I began this blog in 2008, it was simply meant to journal our Ghanaian adoption process.  We were about to embark on a huge adventure, adopting our fifth child.  Having five kids meant that it was difficult to keep up on baby books, to mark milestones, to capture the memories.  We went on to…

What If He Is The Good Guy?

Today I attended the racial justice workshop I have been participating in for the last 6 weeks.  It was much needed. Tomorrow is the one week anniversary of the shooting of an unarmed black teen in my city.  Yes, what I have feared most, and spoken about several times on this blog, has come here to my…

I Am, But I’m Not.

Almost one year ago, I wrote a post about moving outside my bubble and educating myself about racial justice.  This was directly motivated by stories like that of Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, and Tamir Rice, but it’s also motivated by my own kids, the ones who count on me to be able to guide them to…

Again and Again, This is What I Tell My Kids.

I have written many posts about all I have learned as a parent of black children, and the all the learning that continues to be involved in parenting across their lifetimes and at different ages and stages of development.  When ResponsiBoy was handed to me, I had a completely color blind approach to parenting him.  It…

My Boys are Not What the World Wants Them to Be.

I have been working hard to get as far as I can with Poppy’s adoption this week.  Our paperwork is currently being processed to gain her U.S. citizenship.  As soon as that is done, I will get to go and hug her up.  I can’t wait.  I am elated about that.  Seriously, cloud nine over…

A Letter to my Pre-Teen Daughter.

Dear Giggles, I know that sometimes it’s very hard for you and I to talk about things since, in the grand scheme of your life, you have only been mine for a short time.  We write back and forth in our journal, but I’m putting this in the official family blog, immortalizing it if you…

Heartbreaking Honesty.

I’ve been struggling with something over the past couple of weeks.  I’ve been wanting to share this for some time, but I wasn’t sure quite how without sounding both bitter and very selfish.  I may not be able to.  I apologize in advance if this comes of that way. I get probably 20 emails a…

Still Dreaming

It’s Martin Luther King Day today and right now my older boys are at our city’s large performing arts center getting ready to play for a crowd of nearly 1500 people.  In the crowd, their dad will be sitting, watching and proudly waiting to hear them play. Their white dad. We’ve come a long, long…

50 Years.

All photos on this blog are courtesy of a Nikon D3100 camera that has been gifted to the FullPlateFamily in exchange for photo credits and user reviews of accessories.  I have always used a Nikon camera, but never properly.  Thanks to some really great upgrades and proper instruction, my pictures are so much more crisp and I…

No One Told Him He Can’t Swim.

All photos on this blog are courtesy of a Nikon D3100 camera that has been gifted to the FullPlateFamily.  I have always used a Nikon camera, but never properly.  Thanks to some really great upgrades and some proper instruction, my pictures are so much more crisp and I can capture my baby’s faces so much better, before…