Refresh(er)

I attended Refresh Chicago this weekend.  I had been planning this for months.  It has been on my calendar since March.  I barely made it.  Joe and I had a HUGE fight.  The kid in our home who struggles the most with attachment chose the week of the conference to have a week of meltdowns.  This…

Anne With An ‘E’ Has Trauma With A Capital ‘T’

I have no new adoption updates. We’re still waiting for paperwork and biding our time. This is where the process frustrates me the most. I have a pace at which I want this process to move along, but it is completely out of my control. Bureaucracy is what it is. I have been keeping myself…

Empowering for Adulthood

Our goal as parents is to raise children who become free and autonomous adults.  Free thinkers, able to regulate, capable of higher level thought processes and decision making.  We want happy kids who turn into happy adults.  When you have a kid from a hard place getting to that point feels as daunting as summiting…

Correction through Connection.

Before we start talking about correction, as in, of undesirable behaviors, I want to take a moment to wish this girl a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Double digits, baby!!! Juliana, you are the reason I’m here, in Texas, learning all I can formally learn, so that I can pass it on to others.  When you came…

Connecting with Gigi

TBRI has three main principles on which it operates. 1. Empower–attention to physical needs. 2. Connection–attention to attachment needs. 3. Correction–attention to behavioral needs. As a potential adoptive parent, we’re given all kinds of training on empowerment.  Our kids come to us malnourished, starved for attention.  We are told we need to feed them freely,…

You’re Only Human.

I have a whole post about TBRI training yesterday, specifically about connecting which is a key component to TBRI.  Connection.  I had to work HARD on that, hence the upcoming post. Before I hit publish on my connecting post though, and I will, first thing tomorrow morning, I just want to send a little message…

Building Your Bookshelf

In case you’ve missed the last few days of posts, I am in Texas doing some TBRI Practitioner Training.  If you follow me on Facebook you’ve been getting more pearls of wisdom then you probably ever wanted.  I am in love with this training.  There isn’t one thing that was taught today that doesn’t enter…

Where Do I Even Start?

I’m in Forth Worth, Texas.  Phew.  Leaving the crew is always a rocky proposition.  I never know how each individual kid is going to react.  I wasn’t sure at all how to explain my absence to Gigi.  Yesterday, I told her that when she woke up she would drive me to the airport and I…

When Leaving is the Best Thing You Can Do.

This excitable, frosting covered girl helped us celebrate Juliana’s 10th birthday today.  We’re all a little early in our celebration though.  She’ll turn 10 years old on the 26th, but I’ll be in the middle of Texas, so here we are. Enjoying our pizza early.  The decision to leave on this trip was one that…

My Own Attachment and How it Effects My Children.

On October 23, 2016, I will head south to Fort Worth Texas for a week long learning experience about how children from hard places learn to attach to adults when they have had no permanent attachment figures in their lives.  I see this training as a next step to not only helping the children in…

Journaling: A Tool in Her Toolbox

Since Juliana first came home direct communication has been hard for her.  It was for Ally, AJ and Bowen too.  It was with her though that I first noticed lack of eye contact, inability to match her feelings to her body language, and staring in response to questions posed to her in high stress moments….

The Birthday Saboteur: Setting Her Up for Success.

Yesterday was my 38th birthday.  Thank you all SO much for the social media birthday wishes.  They were amazing, and made me feel so loved.  The most amazing gift of the day was actually being able to enjoy my day, for the first time in a very long time. I have a child who is…