A Murder Mystery on NYE

2016 is about to roll out, and we’re anxiously waiting for 2017 to roll on in.  2016 hasn’t been the kindest of years.  We’re ready for it to end.  When we asked the kids how they wanted to kiss this year goodbye, they said they REALLY wanted to party.  This year Santa brought the kids…

Bowen’s First Swim Meet!

Bowen has been working at one thing, very hard, all summer.  He wanted to swim one length of our pool.  If he could do this, he could swim in his first official swim meet.  Bowen has participated in competitions through the DAAA in the past, but he was dying to become part of our local…

Identity Processing.

This weekend we attended our regional Little People of America conference with Bowen.  I considered this a warm up for the national convention we hoped to attend with him in July.  He went to nationals last year and loved it.  I took him to this regional event because of that, with high hopes about this…

Scenes from a Saturday: Fun Fair and a Cut of their Hair.

I want to be so much better about posting the every day stuff we do around here on this blog, along with documenting the firsts .  Today was the elementary school Fun Fair.  I love this day every year and I will be SO sad when I don’t get to go to them anymore.  Luckily,…

A Community for Bowen

Bowen is the least medically needy of all of our kids from China.  He has a physical once a year and once every year he goes to see a special doctor for people with Skeletal Dysplasia.  Bowen has Achondroplasia, the most common form of Dwarfism.  This means he has the most visibly apparent need of…

On This Day of New Beginnings.

We are Christian, and to all the other Christians reading, we say, He is risen!  In our religion, it is a day of new beginnings, of a new, and different life, and a day of eternal hope.  For everyone of other faiths, or no particular faith, we celebrate the new beginning that a new week…

The Road Less Traveled Isn’t Necessarily Less Painful.

In 1987 there was a beautiful essay written about parenting a child with an unexpected special need called ‘Welcome to Holland.’  The author weaves a lovely metaphor about buying a ticket for a trip with Italy and somehow accidentally ending up in Holland.  The feeling of confusion over ending up someplace unexpected, the anger, and…

Two Pumpkins At The Patch

On Wednesday I was lucky enough to get to go and visit two separate pumpkin patches with these two little pumpkins. Prior to this, I wasn’t able to do these kinds of things very often.  I was usually the one at work.  Joe and I have traded off participating in these kinds of activities, so…

Down on the Farm.

Yesterday was one of those perfect midwest days.  We were invited to a farm a little more than an hour from our house to celebrate adoption with families from WACAP who live in our area.  WACAP (World Association for Children and Parents) is the agency that has done all our home studies for China.  They were…

Around the Table.

We’re nesting around here.  I usually don’t use terms that compare adoption to pregnancy in any way, but this part of the process does overlap, so I’m going to appropriate the term.  For me, the nesting process starts as we close out every adoption.  It means I get everything in order that I’ve been putting…

With No Expectations, We Rise.

This week, on Cate’s one year Famiversary, I’ve been thinking a lot about those first few days with our girl, and what we did to prepare for them.  Cate was living in an awesome medical foster home because of her eye tumor.  They were providing so much more than just eye care.  She was being…

We Found Love Right Where We Are.

Today marks fifteen years of marriage for this couple.  This December will mark twenty years of togetherness.  I’ve tried to write this post about one thousand times in my head as this day approached.  There are so many things I want to say.  So many things I want Joe and the kids to know about…