Way to be THREE!

Oh Goose.  How did we get here?  Wasn’t it just yesterday that I was dragging your surly little food covered self off of a plane from China?  Today you’re turning THREE.  Three is like a milestone number for me.  It means you’re not a baby anymore.  You’ve officially entered the land of the preschooler. Except,…

With An Open Heart

I have an amazing friend who I met in person in China while I was adopting Cate.  Lisa and her husband, Jimmy, became fast friends to Cam, Cate and I.  But, while we were in China, I purposely didn’t explain to Cam the background of exactly how I had come to know Lisa.  You see,…

The Road Less Traveled Isn’t Necessarily Less Painful.

In 1987 there was a beautiful essay written about parenting a child with an unexpected special need called ‘Welcome to Holland.’  The author weaves a lovely metaphor about buying a ticket for a trip with Italy and somehow accidentally ending up in Holland.  The feeling of confusion over ending up someplace unexpected, the anger, and…

Interloper.

Oh, siblings.  You are best friends and worst enemies all rolled into one.  You would think that moving into a house of ten children would be a big adjustment for Gigi.  Not so much.  She is GREAT with all her brothers and sisters.  She revels in the chaos.  She floats from kid to kid, seeing…

Re-Adoption Day!

We officially re-adopted Cate!  This process is necessary for her to obtain a U.S. birth certificate.  We feel this is important so that in the future there is no question about her citizenship.  We asked the older kids if they wanted to come this time.  Our middle schoolers have some big responsibilities at school, and…

Down on the Farm.

Yesterday was one of those perfect midwest days.  We were invited to a farm a little more than an hour from our house to celebrate adoption with families from WACAP who live in our area.  WACAP (World Association for Children and Parents) is the agency that has done all our home studies for China.  They were…

Around the Table.

We’re nesting around here.  I usually don’t use terms that compare adoption to pregnancy in any way, but this part of the process does overlap, so I’m going to appropriate the term.  For me, the nesting process starts as we close out every adoption.  It means I get everything in order that I’ve been putting…

With No Expectations, We Rise.

This week, on Cate’s one year Famiversary, I’ve been thinking a lot about those first few days with our girl, and what we did to prepare for them.  Cate was living in an awesome medical foster home because of her eye tumor.  They were providing so much more than just eye care.  She was being…

One Year of Cate.

One year ago today I stood in a nearly empty room in Henan, a stark contrast to the craziness of the day before, and signed the paperwork that made Cate ours.  I am blessed enough to have had many of these happy days in my life.  When the anniversary of any of them rolls around,…

We Found Love Right Where We Are.

Today marks fifteen years of marriage for this couple.  This December will mark twenty years of togetherness.  I’ve tried to write this post about one thousand times in my head as this day approached.  There are so many things I want to say.  So many things I want Joe and the kids to know about…

Pee Your Pants, It’s Okay.

Last night, I posted to Facebook our not so controversial, and purely lazy, decision to not potty train Cate.  She is now 2.5 years old.  At this tender age, I began the process of potty training Brady.  That ordeal lasted until he was nearly 4. I pushed the boy too hard.  He wasn’t ready, and…

When All is Quiet.

We’re entering the waining weeks of summer.  The kids are done with swim team and we’re getting ready to go back to school.  I woke up the other day and felt a little blue.  I wondered why.  I recently changed jobs, let go of YEARS of nursing practice to run my own show in my…