The Intersection of Adoption and Depression.

After every adoption I have completed, I go through a period of depression.  I don’t say this to scare anyone, or to have a ‘woe is me’ moment.  I say it because this feeling during this period has become so familiar.  I can imagine that it isn’t familiar to everyone who adopts, which is why…

Refresh(er)

I attended Refresh Chicago this weekend.  I had been planning this for months.  It has been on my calendar since March.  I barely made it.  Joe and I had a HUGE fight.  The kid in our home who struggles the most with attachment chose the week of the conference to have a week of meltdowns.  This…

Lift As You Climb.

Recently, I was reading the story of Mary Church Terrell to my kids.   She was born the year of the Emancipation Proclamation and died two months after Brown v. Board of Education.  She was a charter member of the NAACP and a proud feminist, but because she was African-American she was excluded from participating…

Now We Get To Be Friends.

I am not a mother who subscribes to the theory that I can be ‘friends’ with my child.  I’m sure there are some parents who have that relationship with their children.  Some of my children came to me later in life, like halfway through their childhood, so becoming their friend wasn’t my first priority.  A…

A Murder Mystery on NYE

2016 is about to roll out, and we’re anxiously waiting for 2017 to roll on in.  2016 hasn’t been the kindest of years.  We’re ready for it to end.  When we asked the kids how they wanted to kiss this year goodbye, they said they REALLY wanted to party.  This year Santa brought the kids…

The Birthday Saboteur: Setting Her Up for Success.

Yesterday was my 38th birthday.  Thank you all SO much for the social media birthday wishes.  They were amazing, and made me feel so loved.  The most amazing gift of the day was actually being able to enjoy my day, for the first time in a very long time. I have a child who is…

Getting to Know…Me.

I’m going to try something new in 2016.  There is a wonderful link up opportunity through Adoption Talk.  On the first and third Thursday of every month, I’m going to write here about one of their pre-selected topics.  Today’s topic was ‘Getting to Know you.’  When I saw the topic, I wondered, do you?  Sometimes,…

Down on the Farm.

Yesterday was one of those perfect midwest days.  We were invited to a farm a little more than an hour from our house to celebrate adoption with families from WACAP who live in our area.  WACAP (World Association for Children and Parents) is the agency that has done all our home studies for China.  They were…

Around the Table.

We’re nesting around here.  I usually don’t use terms that compare adoption to pregnancy in any way, but this part of the process does overlap, so I’m going to appropriate the term.  For me, the nesting process starts as we close out every adoption.  It means I get everything in order that I’ve been putting…

We Found Love Right Where We Are.

Today marks fifteen years of marriage for this couple.  This December will mark twenty years of togetherness.  I’ve tried to write this post about one thousand times in my head as this day approached.  There are so many things I want to say.  So many things I want Joe and the kids to know about…

One Perfect Day.

It’s Spring Break week here at FullPlate Manor.  We are working on knowing our limits though, and it is beyond my ability right now to plan a vacation and execute in any sort of successful way.  So, we all decided to stay home and just be.  Changes are coming.  Week after next Dolly will roll…

Crossroads.

I feel like life has got us sitting at a little bit of a crossroads right now.  FullPlateDad and I have quite a few decisions to make, and while my instinct is to turn one direction, his is to go another.  This is where having ten kids is hard.  When you’re driving a large bus,…