I blinked and, suddenly, it has been four years since I brought Giggles and ShyGuy home from what was an adoption trip that changed me heart and soul. I learned a ton about ethical adoptions. Their journey to our family was like a guide on how NOT to adopt. It turned out great, with an ongoing relationship with a birth mother we now consider part of our extended family, but it could have been SO bad. I could have ended up taking a child from a mother who didn’t really understand what she was giving up. I could have unknowingly pulled apart a family.
Adoption is tough. The ethics, motivations and money that come behind it are even tougher. There are so many shades of grey in the adoption world, that it is a minefield to navigate. I’m so proud of where Giggles and ShyGuy came from, but at the same time, that place scarred me.
Adoption isn’t for the faint of heart.
Adoption is beautiful, but it’s broken. I didn’t realize that until I was in the middle of the adoption of these two. People lied to us, hearts were broken. There was a chance, a good chance, for many weeks, that we were never going to get to call them ours. I had to rely on complete strangers to help us. The world, at that moment, seemed completely out of control. It was like living a nightmare.
Then, all of the sudden, that out of control world came alive to help us.
Getting these two here was an honest to goodness miracle. We were granted such a gift.
I came home bruised, battered, really pissed off, but so, so grateful. There is another family, on the other side of the world, living a similar nightmare right now. While they have great on the ground support in their child’s homeland, their U.S. adoption agency has closed its doors in the middle of their adoption. They’re left with no stateside help to finish their adoption. Instead of leaving, they’ve chosen to stay and fight.
In honor of Giggles and ShyGuy and the miracle we were granted four years ago today, I’m asking you to help this family with their miracle. Here is a link to their fundraising page. I don’t know them personally. I just know their story, just like so many people knew ours. Let’s come alive and help them get their son home.
–FullPlateMom, who once said seven children was enough. She was a liar.