An Isabel Update, and Accepting Help.

I don’t know if you know this about me, but I am not one to accept help from others.  Actually, if you’ve read this blog for any amount of time, you know this about me.  I’ve found people to, generally speaking, be disappointing.  I know. That sounds super depressing. It seems safer to just not…

Scenes From A Summer Without You.

We’re at that odd stage in the adoption process when we’re close enough to the end goal that we feel like we’re missing someone from our family, but we’re still far enough away that I find myself living in a constant state of frustration.  It’s an odd feeling to miss someone you’ve never actually met….

Lazy Beach Days.

We just returned from seven lazy beach days courtesy of Spring Break.  These types of trips are becoming more and more important to me as time slowly ticks away with some of our kids.  Ally is finishing up her Freshmen year of high school, Cam will follow her next year. My time with them feels…

A Murder Mystery on NYE

2016 is about to roll out, and we’re anxiously waiting for 2017 to roll on in.  2016 hasn’t been the kindest of years.  We’re ready for it to end.  When we asked the kids how they wanted to kiss this year goodbye, they said they REALLY wanted to party.  This year Santa brought the kids…

The 24 Hours After

Twenty-four hours ago, we elected a president. I’ve never openly discussed politics on this blog, but if you can read between the lines, you could probably infer where I stand. If you and I are friends on Facebook, no inference is required, you know. My political beliefs were driven further to the left this last…

Empowering for Adulthood

Our goal as parents is to raise children who become free and autonomous adults.  Free thinkers, able to regulate, capable of higher level thought processes and decision making.  We want happy kids who turn into happy adults.  When you have a kid from a hard place getting to that point feels as daunting as summiting…

Correction through Connection.

Before we start talking about correction, as in, of undesirable behaviors, I want to take a moment to wish this girl a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Double digits, baby!!! Juliana, you are the reason I’m here, in Texas, learning all I can formally learn, so that I can pass it on to others.  When you came…

When Leaving is the Best Thing You Can Do.

This excitable, frosting covered girl helped us celebrate Juliana’s 10th birthday today.  We’re all a little early in our celebration though.  She’ll turn 10 years old on the 26th, but I’ll be in the middle of Texas, so here we are. Enjoying our pizza early.  The decision to leave on this trip was one that…

Journaling: A Tool in Her Toolbox

Since Juliana first came home direct communication has been hard for her.  It was for Ally, AJ and Bowen too.  It was with her though that I first noticed lack of eye contact, inability to match her feelings to her body language, and staring in response to questions posed to her in high stress moments….

Scenes from a Saturday: Fun Fair and a Cut of their Hair.

I want to be so much better about posting the every day stuff we do around here on this blog, along with documenting the firsts .  Today was the elementary school Fun Fair.  I love this day every year and I will be SO sad when I don’t get to go to them anymore.  Luckily,…

Down on the Farm.

Yesterday was one of those perfect midwest days.  We were invited to a farm a little more than an hour from our house to celebrate adoption with families from WACAP who live in our area.  WACAP (World Association for Children and Parents) is the agency that has done all our home studies for China.  They were…

Around the Table.

We’re nesting around here.  I usually don’t use terms that compare adoption to pregnancy in any way, but this part of the process does overlap, so I’m going to appropriate the term.  For me, the nesting process starts as we close out every adoption.  It means I get everything in order that I’ve been putting…